Custody: The Court Systems Is Turning The Tables On The Mothers???

[realluv]

Ladies you better step up your A game the court systems are no longer ruling in your favor just because you are the mother. No more manipulation and no more doing things out of spite. Time to woman up and handle your responsibilities from a fair stand point or this could happen to you.

[eyalove]

I know someone personally I am mean they arent famous or nothing. But Men please be careful who you have your babies with. Women the same goes for you!!! All this uneccessary Drama. Child Please!!! Yes Ladies you can lose custody. A friend of a friend this guy does what he pose to for his child and this trifling hooker always lying and guess what she set her ass up for failure. Well he was awarded full custody because she was a damn fool. Now who gets the last laff. I dont have time for this bs. If my daughter father comes around he does; if he doesnt than oh well..I dont play these games nor do I have time for them. Cuz my thing is either you pay now or later its up to you and all that money is adding UP...Cha ching!!! LOL

[DaTruth08]

The same tired old cycle of females that prey on athletes/rappers/dope boys/ etc. and whoever else got a name for themselves or who they think is "ON" at the time, thinkin that's a quick come up and if they get pregnant child support a take care of they lazy asses, i think the courts are finally becoming aware of this "get rich scheme", maybe this was or wasn't the case, but she is the example. What ever it is she seemed to had picked the wrong one. More men should get good representation when they are dealing with custody battles, but on some real shit a REAL MAN/WOMEN/ADULT/GROWN UP will talk it out! If a parent(s) can't put their selfish bulldshit aside for their child sake, they need to kill themselves.

[Sheryl Johnson]

Mental and emotional abuse can happen when one person has all of the power in the relationship. It is a predatory relationship where certain men go after pretty sensitive yet naive women and then use them and confuse them. These women never see it coming because they wanted the fantasy with prince charming but the prince is really a frog with his own agenda. When he decides to move on to another woman, or she decides to move on, he has a winner takes all mentality and then tries to destroy her in the process. He uses all his power and influence to do it. And he is very cunning and deceitful and manipulative the same way some women manipulate men. I am not suggesting that is what happened here, but it may be a possibility. Could explain why she comes across so confused. Victims of these types of relationships are traumatized on such a deep mental emotional level that they almost seem crazy and aloof. We never question the man who is often handsome, charming and just such a great guy. We never see his nasty underbelly.

[Sheryl Johnson]

This is a very peculiar situation. There is definitely alot of missing information. As an attorney who has represented fathers in custody proceedings, it is very difficult for a man to gain full custody over an infant to the almost exclusion of the mother. It is very curious that she has "supervised visitation". When that happens, usually a court has determined that it is in the best interest of the child. Courts don't just do that automatically. It has to be based on something. She makes herself a total victim in this video. I question her motivation. On the otherhand, there is also a dynamic of control in this case that is also very disturbing. Many men fear child support and losing money as a basis for not committing to a relationship to begin with. As a result, they insist on holding all of the cards. They have all the power in the relationship, leaving the other person to become totally dependant on them financially, physically, emotionally, etc. It is not surprising that they lived together on his money. This is a mistake many women make when they get involved with men who have power money influence, etc. They allow themselves to become pregnant and then the child becomes the bagaining chip or pawn. It becomes about the money.

She admitted they were having difficulties. He exercises his legal rights and gets counsel. She continues to sleep with him and live with him while they have a court case pending. Doesn't make sense, but it happens.

[justme2813]

This is truly going on and I can attest to it. I divorced in 2003 and had my three children since, due to my ex's mental and physical abuse. I have remarried this past year and went to court again because I was moving. If it weren't for me moving out of state we wouldn't have gone back to court.

However, in court, my ex printed out my entire Myspace page (I was currently writing for our local paper's entertainment section in which I covered music concerts and other community events). He tried to use this against me, saying I was partying all the time, as well as the fact that I had moved my children to several schools where the kids had their absences and tardies records, saying that I was not fit to care for my children. I was a single mom on welfare, in college, and over the years while I was divorced, he and his family called CPS (Child Protective Services) on me four different times with allegations that I was neglecting to feed my children. I believe his intentions were to try and gain custody of my children sooner. Especially since his mother threatened to take custody of my children three separate times in their lives...the first being when my first child was six months old. My children are the only heirs to their assests and I am not popular with their family because I speak my mind.

I was able to present evidence that all cases were unfounded. I was able to present all violations the father made during our current orders and that he was not living where he said he was (with his parents).

My children, all under the ages of 12 years, were interiewed by our mediator and she used their interview to grant custody basically, to the grandparents, his parents (because that's where he said he lived) and the mediator KNEW he was lying. She even mentioned that she believed he wasn't! AND...it took his lawyer, my lawyer and the mediator to try and convince him that he was the parent in all of it (on his side). She knew that the paternal grandparents were taking over when he had visitation and that he gave the kids to them every time. I fought to question that and presented all my evidence and the mediator called me a nit-picker. I WAS FIGHTING FOR MY KIDS!!

Ultimately the kids were granted to their father because I was married to a soldier (which the children lived with also for the past two years) and we got stationed in North Carolina....that and my lawyer didn't fight for me while her mind remainded occupied with her criminal law case she was expecting to be at. She, while on the phone during our mediation break said to another laywer, "I'm stuck in family law hell."

I believe I got an unfair ruling and now my children are not with me, my youngest (7) is having a very difficult time dealing with this matter as she cries everytime she thinks of us being apart. She is no longer as bubbly as she once was and I can see the pain in her eyes everytime we have to separate. My eleven year old is frustrated and my middle child, a girl 9, said, "I didn't think this was really gonna happen."

We are all suffering from the ruling of a court system not having any real concern for the families that are its community and business. They are the ones creating the broken system it thinks it is trying to help fix. The system is corrupt with the HUMANS who are broken themselves and seem to be out to ruin others if they are having a bad day. for those who are trying to help the families, truly help, they are few and far between...thanks if you are and my children and I wish you were there for us

[Lil Ronnie]

Bout time!!!! I'm not saying this is cool, but ladies do it every minute of eveyday! So bruh was on top of his game and big ups for fighting for he rights! Sounds like this bruh wasn't hearing dishing out all that money for support. Orange Juice Jones'd her!!!! lol wow! opps...got to be mo careful!

[Kristian]

Sounds like it Isis! I hope my sisters see this and go the positive route when dealing with our bruthr's... i feel for her but the bruh's are taking this crap every day and have to deal with it! I was caught up years ago with custody and visitation battles, until I showed up to court and the she just sent the Lawyer to Rep. her. The judge gave me all the visitation I wanted and she got crazier then, but that was years ago...lucky we grow, mature and sometimes let go of the bad blood. Adults are the cause of mentally disturbed children and these two will need to communicate and the future but right now, we are our own worse enemy! My sista's got bruh's on edge about everything and this is how we respond...stop being so selfish and be fair, because both sides are losing. Just because a relationship doesn't work doesn't mean, our children can't be raised right. My bruh's have to step it up too but right now this is a direct response to how men have been treated in respect to their kids. (Think about it!)